Music serves such a strong purpose in our lives. Whether it is to exercise, focus, learning a new instrument, dancing, cleaning, help us let out some of our emotions such as being excited, happy, sad, frustrated, overwhelmed, or even just wanting to blare some music and enjoy a long car ride. Today I want to talk about music and the help it can be for people with stress and anxiety. The calming effects it can have during people’s times of utter chaos in their heads that they can’t control without some kind of distraction, or calming mechanism to help center them and bring them back to a reality that unfortunately they escape from during these times. As someone who deals heavily with anxiety I can tell you one of the many coping mechanisms I have is music. Specifically soul helps me in my times of high anxiety. Loud, fast tempo, and sometimes even obnoxious music helps me in my time of stress.. Some of the ways music helps with anxiety are so amazing and drastic it is really hard to believe sometimes. Things such as: headaches, indigestion, trouble sleeping, pain relief, concentration, and so much more. That is why I believe we need music but also how music serves society, it is one sure way of being able to put your focus on something powerful and meaningful to calm your anxieties and stressors down. Music has been used for centuries to help people and is often recommended by therapists, doctors, and medical professionals alike to help people that are finding their own coping mechanisms vs. medications in some cases.
One of the classic genres I listen too during my times of high anxiety is R&B. The soulful and passionate voices behind most of the artists is enough to help anybody calm down. KCI & Jojo is a band from when I was growing up and is always my go too during my times of high anxiety. There voices and specifically this following song has always been able to center me and calm me down.
All My Life Lyrics and Melody:
Baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, baby
Ooh
I’m so gladI will never find another lover sweeter than you
Sweeter than you
And I will never find another lover more precious than you
More precious than you
Girl you are close to me you’re like my mother
Close to me you’re like my father
Close to me you’re like my sister
Close to me you’re like my brother (brother)
You are the only one my everything and for you this song I sing
And all my life I’ve prayed for someone like you
And I thank God that I, that I finally found you
All my life I’ve prayed for someone like you
And I hope that you feel the same way too
Yes, I pray that you do love me too
I said you’re all that I’m thinking of, babySaid, I promise to never fall in love with a stranger
You’re all I’m thinking of, I praise the Lord above
For sending me your love, I cherish every hug
I really love you
And all (so much) my life (baby, baby) I’ve prayed for someone like you
And I thank God (that I found you) that I finally found you
All my life (oh, girl) I’ve prayed for someone like you
And I hope that you feel the same way too
Yes, I pray that you do, love me
You’re all that I ever known
When you smile, on my face, all I see is a glow
You turned my life around, you picked me up when I was down
You’re all that I ever known
When you smile your face glows
You picked me up when I was down, said
You’re all that I ever known
When you smile on your face all I see is a glow
You picked me up when I was down
And I hope that you feel the same way too
Yes I pray that you do love me too
All my life, I’ve prayed for someone like you
And I thank God that I, that I finally found you
All my life I’ve prayed for someone like you
Yes, I pray that you do love me too
All my life I’ve prayed for someone like you
And I thank God that I, that I finally found you
All my life I’ve prayed for someone like you
Yes, I pray that you do love me too
And all my life, I’ve prayed for someone like you
And I thank God that I, that I finally found you
All my life I’ve prayed for someone like you”
I have always loved this song. It is romantic, passionate, and just a really strong and beautiful song. I think it holds so much meaning to me and helps me out of my downward spirals of anxiety because my husband sings this song to me and dedicated it to me during our Wedding. He has always been the one person to make me be able to calm down instantly and many times it’s turning on some of these songs for me and just being there. This song is about the love he has for his wife and how much he has prayed for someone just like her to be brought to him and now that he finally has found her she has helped turn his life around and he never wants to lose the love they have. This song is 128 beats per minute and is in time signature 4/4 and while it may be more of an fast tempo song it is still very soulful and passionate which is why I continue to go to it. The lyrics that make this song so great is just another reason it is a favorite of mine and the main reason I think it is able to calm me down. The meaning of this song to me and the voices behind it that complete it is something I can always go too to remind me to breathe and appreciate the little things such as a romantic song that makes my husband think of me.
All-4-One “I Swear”
“I Swear” Lyrics and Melody:
I swear by the moon and the stars in the sky
And I swear like the shadow that’s by your side
I see the questions in your eyes
I know what’s weighing on your mind
You can be sure I know my heart’Cause I’ll stand beside you through the years
You’ll only cry those happy tears
And though I make mistakes
I’ll never break your heart
And I swear by the moon and the stars in the sky
I’ll be there
I swear like a shadow that’s by your side
I’ll be there
For better or worse, till death do us part
I’ll love you with every beat of my heart
And I swear
I’ll give you every thing I can
I’ll build your dreams with these two hands
We’ll hang some memories on the walls
And when just the two of us are there
You won’t have to ask if I still care
‘Cause as the time turns the page, my love won’t age at all
And I swear by the moon and the stars in the sky (I’ll be there)
I swear (and I swear) like the shadow that’s by your side
I’ll be there (I’ll be there)For better or worse, till death do us part
I’ll love you with every beat of my heart
And I swear
I swear (I swear) by the moon and stars in the sky
I’ll be there
I swear like the shadow that’s by your side
I’ll be there
For better or worse, till death do us part
I’ll love you with every (single) beat of my heart
I swear, I swear, oh, I, swear”
This band’s soulful voices are my FAVORITE! I adore the passion you can hear in all of their parts in this song. The lyrics to this song are about how he is never going to break this woman’s heart and how he always be there until do us part and how much he loves her. While the lyrics are amazing on their own, it is just the voices that gets me attached to this song and calms me. This song is 83 beats per minute so it is a slow tempo which fits their different tones perfectly and gives you more of an opportunity to hear each of their dynamic vocals.
Personal Journey:
This class “Explorations in Music” has given me such a new appreciation for music. I never really took the time to dig into what makes a great song until now and what actually goes into the process of making music. While I have a large genre of favorites and love all different kinds of music, this class has opened up my taste even more so now. While also giving me the ability to appreciate and understand the process while also giving me a really great blog to utilize in my school career and beyond.
References:
Jenni Rook, March 12, 2015: https://www.anxiety.org/music-therapy-stress-reducing-playlist
Rick Nauert, June 3, 2019: https://psychcentral.com/news/2018/12/23/music-soothes-anxiety-reduces-pain/32952.html
Steve Huey, unknown date: https://www.allmusic.com/artist/k-ci-jojo-mn0000312126/biography